Family and friends must understand that your writing time is important. It’s beyond important: it’s sacrosanct. It’s not interruptible. But it’s not fair to ask family and friends to allow you the time you need to write — to take your writing seriously and to support your creative efforts — unless you yourself take it seriously.
You must respect your own writing time enough to turn off the distractions and focus your mental energy. This means turning off the email, turning off your phone. Turning on the answering machine. Putting on headphones. Closing the door. Or going elsewhere to find the quiet you need.
Over the years I have retreated to coffee shops, library desks, picnic tables, and my (parked) car to write undisturbed. If I’d had a basement I would have tried that, too. What’s your location of last resort?
When you are determined and persistent, when you are out and out adamant, you’ll find there is a way to do what you need to do to protect your writing time — and your precious mental energy.
Maybe it’s no trouble at all for you to find time to write, or maybe it’s time to take responsibility and guard it with ferocity!