After my earlier post on toxic friendships feeding into self doubt among creative types, I promised to explore Julia Cameron’s so-called Crazymakers. These are the people she identifies, in her creativity book entitled The Artist’s Way, as: “those personalities that create storm centers. They are often charismatic, frequently charming, highly inventive, and powerfully persuasive. And for the creative person in their vicinity, they are enormously destructive. You know the type: charismatic but out of control, long on problems and short on solutions.” In a word, divas and drama queens!
Crazymakers, Divas and Drama Queens
I would bet you can name a couple of these people in about two seconds. These are the people who always need last minute help for “emergencies” regardless of what you have on your schedule; they abuse your time and insist on interrupting you for help regardless of what you are doing. They use your stuff without permission and disrespect it. They will manufacture gossip or situations to upset you. They never take responsibility for their own actions — it’s always some else’s fault — and probably your fault at that. In short, they are in your time, in your space, in your face and make your life miserable if not downright impossible.
Why Do We Let Them Drive Us Nuts?
Cameron claims these people are blocked creatives themselves, consequently they become destructive. Beyond that, she asserts that creative people allow these crazymakers into their lives because “we’re that crazy ourselves and we are that self-destructive.” Wow.
Why would you do that? Because, according to Cameron, it is a way of keeping ourselves blocked – we allow the crazymaker to abuse us precisely so that we can’t succeed. In other words, we use the crazymaker as an excuse not to create!
Do you recognize this kind of codependency in your life?
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